I've started writing this tons of times and it's getting a little ridiculous. I'm doing the thing I always do with any new endeavor, which is overthink it to the point where I put myself under an immense amount of completely unnecessary pressure, and as anyone who's ever interviewed me for a job knows, I do not operate well under that kind of pressure.
But I'm doing it. Look, words! I'm typing! I'm for sure definitely probably posting this soon!
My main problem, or the reason I get so stressed out about starting things- other than the usual suspects that haunt me at any given time on any given day which are a low-grade depression, not-so-low-grade anxiety, and near crippling indecision- is that I can never do so without building up some grand eventuality for it in my head. Then, I put too much pressure on the start of it, like I have to have it all figured out right out of the gate, like it has to be perfect from day one, and super cool, and everyone is going to read it, and they all
have to like it, and omg...
But Jesus Christ Ashley, this is just a fucking blog.
(That's me by the by, I'm Ashley)
So to hell with all that. What it comes down to is this: I'm in a bit of a stuck place in life at the moment and I'm struggling to figure out how to effectively move forward and somehow I came to the conclusion that perhaps a blog would help. Modern times are WILD man, amiright??
One of the main culprits of my stuck feeling I've decided, is my above mentioned low-grade depression. I call it low-grade because I'm still a functioning member of society, it's not crippling me so much that I don't basically take care of myself and all the adult things I need to do on any given day. What it's done is suck out my excitement, and that really makes it difficult to figure out what I want to do with my life moving forward. If nothing excites me, nothing piques my interest, nothing feels worth doing. So, my free time is spent sitting watching Murder, She Wrote. Again.
Yeah. AGAIN.
I used to be defined by my excitement. I was never not making and doing
something. You could ask me what project I was working on then and I'd always have something to excitedly tell you about. You could ask me about whatever show I was watching and 15 minutes later you'd be glassy-eyed, trying to take in an abundance of information about Firefly or something. I had
interests. I had hobbies that wonderfully
consumed me.
Even my (dare I call it) fashion has suffered (or maybe not, depending on who you ask I guess). I thought for a while that me scanning TJ Maxx's clearance racks for oversized gray sweaters all the time was simply a sign that I'd grown up, evolved. No more shirts covered in hot pink cats, I'm an Adult now.
But I recently went through my closet to get rid of some clothes and found I couldn't get rid of the hot pink cat shirt, even though I hadn't worn it in ages. I realized I hadn't stopped liking all those weird things, I had just given up, just surrendered myself to the sea of black leggings and grayness.
That goes for my hobbies too. While I do still work on things from time to time, I've given up for the most part. I'm just doing things out of some strange sense of duty and it's been kind of a drag so I'm more than ready to fix that.
Thus, we come to the point of all this.
I work in the mental health field so I can attest to the fact that "fake it until you make it" is potentially a super effective treatment for what I've got going on* so I thought it'd be worth a try to write a blog to help pump up my excitement for things again. My idea is to post about things that I like or do so not only do I have a record to look back on of all the stuff I've tried and enjoyed (always a good reminder), but I'll continue (hopefully) to keep that excitement going by talking about it.
That was a lot of words just to say I'm writing the same sort of blog as everyone else but I'm doing it because I'm bummed a lot. Sorry.
My hope is that it gets easier and easier and at least some of that all-consuming excitement comes back. The more I talk about things I like, the more I focus on the things I like, the more excited I get about the things I like. Maybe.
I guess we'll see right?
*
Sometimes it definitely isn't though, everyone's different. If the weight of your depression or anxiety is too crushing for you to get to that point or to function in a healthy manner, please, for the love of everything, get some help. Therapy, medication, even just finding a friend to talk to to start. It's worth it. YOU are worth it. Life's hard man, ain't no shame in getting the help you need.