Tuesday, October 20, 2020

Get a Move On: Angry Walk

A lot has happened since last we met. I went on a much needed vacation where I visited my family. The day before I ventured on my 8 hour drive to Maryland however, I had a job interview.

A very successful job interview.

So successful that I, well, got the job. They called me before I was even out of the parking lot. 

Oh don't get too excited though. I'm not finished. 

Upon my return and as I wait in quarantine for my covid-19 test to come back, I had a Zoom meeting with HR where I discovered they apparently did not value my experience as much as I was lead to believe and the point at which they put me on their pay scale was shockingly, disappointingly low and quite at odds with what I was told from the get-go. 

I feel under appreciated- a feeling I'm too familiar with in my current job to accept it going into a new one-  and frustrated at the apparent lack of communication between the people I interviewed with who spoke excitedly about how well my experience would benefit the position, versus HR who, well, clearly doesn't see it that way. I had someone describe my current job as "just watching kids, making sure they don't run off," an insultingly gross underestimation of what I actually do, as a way to justify paying me less, turning what started out as disappointment into anger. 

Now, I know these things happen, job hunting takes persistence, yada yada yada, and I do have a couple emails to write before I'm completely out of the running here (I was excited about the job itself so I gotta try all I can to get that good ol' livable wage) but now, now was time for an Angry Walk.

Luckily it's Fall which, in my opinion, is the perfect time for an Angry Walk because the point of an Angry Walk is to come home with a lot less anger than you started out with and how can you not cool down both literally and metaphorically when you're walking through this?

[Quick interlude: look at my sneakers. Look at them. If you are in the market for athletic-ish type shoes (especially if your athletics mostly include putzing around outside and/or getting forced into sporting activities with kids), may I recommend these Merrell Alpines. They are the ideal blend of extreme comfort, style, and delightful color combos.]

I walked, I Angry Texted a friend, I took pictures. Lots of pictures.






I initially started out walking around town but quickly realized fall was in full force so it would be a shame to not find some more trees to walk through. This is the start of the rail trail I walked on, which is where many of these pictures come from.

This guy appears to be on fire. He's showing off more than his surrounding friends. You go small dude.

I do love some good bridge shots. What makes foliage shots even better? Water!


In high-emotion situations, I find I shut down, completed unable to express myself adequately, and often the only way to snap out of it is a good Angry Walk. This time was no exception. I feel far better, ready to move on to my next steps, whatever those may be. 

And at the very least, I know what I'm worth. 


I hope you enjoyed my Angry Walk through some delightful New England foliage as much as I did (though I hope you didn't start out as angry). Now, I'm going to self-medicate with a mini-binge of The Great British Bake Off and dyeing my hair blue. 

Yup.

4 comments:

  1. WHAT!? How dare they do that to you, Ashley! Gah, I am so sick of the undervaluing of "women's" work! I am feeling that Rage, my dear, a full head of steam on your behalf happening over here!

    Your Angry Walk is such a good idea, all those colours! The leaves! The bridge! The water! The colours! Did I say the COLOURS??

    I also adore your shoes - I noticed the fun colours right away. Are you really going blue?? I hope so! You know I had bright purple hair for years, right? Go for it! :)

    Hang in there and stick to your guns, my dear. Don't go into a job that doesn't think you worth it from the get-go!

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    1. Yes! Thank you so much! It was maddening but I made it through, much better than I thought I would actually because I did indeed stick to my guns.
      Nature's colors and the now not-so-natural color of my hair definitely helped lift my spirits. ;)

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  2. Ash, I can't believe they said that to you!

    Actually, I can now that I think about it. Unfortunately some people think that childcare/education is easy work.

    Some people in my own family have said degrading things to me, like 'teachers are taking money away from pensioners and children with disabilities. You're getting paid too much especially as you have school holidays'. I mean, seriously? That did not go down well with me, so I understand your anger. In fact, I think there isn't enough money in the whole world to compensate for the stress and hard work put into these kind of jobs.

    I'm glad your autumn walk cheered you up. Sometimes there's nothing like a good walk and rant to friends to get you through. X

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    1. Exactly! I don't understand it. I work with teenagers in a locked psychiatric ward currently, and I'm not sure how but people still seem to think it's easy. And how could they say that about teachers?? Where would we be without teachers?!
      Luckily, things worked out for me but it's still maddening to think about. Thanks for the kind words!

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